Thursday, March 17, 2005

a new kind of pain

Brandon and I were discussing last night how children have opened us up to a whole new kind of pain. The kind of pain that, as you're growing up, you only hear parents talk about...the pain of losing a child. With so many of our friends filling their homes with offspring, the chances seem greater that this kind of pain could enter our lives. It's unsettling to think about.

I just can't imagine Rowan not being around. The heartbreak...man...I'm choosing not to go there at the moment. But I would be just as heartbroken if one of my precious friends lost a child. Hm. So many things I didn't bargain for when I decided to become a parent!

2 Comments:

Blogger tine said...

it is true how when tragedy strikes a child now, you imagine if that were your own child. somehow it is comforting to know that there are other mommies and daddies out there struggling with this enormous amount of love that they feel, along with the helplessness of not being able to forever protect their sweet babies. i don't know you, but i feel connected to you as a young mother going through these same feelings.i have heard the quote that when we choose to have children we are choosing to forever have our hearts walking around outside our bodies...well, right now, mine is crawling...but it's so very true...blessings to you and your family.

9:29 AM  
Blogger Kate said...

It's amazing how having your own child changes your level of empathy. It was annoying to hear people say things like: you won't understand until you have kids...but it's true.

10:47 AM  

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